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Better communication skills will advance your career and business. Are you ready to enhance your understanding and results from better communication? Listen and learn how to deliver Your Intended Message.
Are you willing to cross-examine communication from various perspectives? Would you like to deliver your intended message more effectively?
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Thursday Oct 27, 2022
Thursday Oct 27, 2022
How can you build your charisma?
How does Greek mythology offer constructive leadership analogies?
Episode 118 (Scott is based in New York City)
In this conversation with Scott Mason, we explore:
- Charisma as a leadership quality
- The difference between entertainment and charisma
- Why powerful charisma both attracts and repels
- Why we need heroes that are flawed
- How to recognize charisma
- The importance of enabling the connection between your head and heart
- The rich litanies of Greek mythology
- Why Greek myths are a safe source of leadership lessons
About Scott Mason
Scott is a graduate of Columbia Law School and worked as legal counsel & a senior executive with government and nonprofit organizations for a quarter of a century.
Scott's insights on Greek mythology and business success have appeared in book compilations and online magazines and blogs; he additionally was the founding host of the Greater New York City area's official podcast for Toastmasters International, the world's largest public speaking organization.
Scott encourages everyone he knows to find a personal mythological avatar whose characteristics inspire them and keep them reaching high; his is Helios, the god of the sun, and has been ever since he was a little boy.
Arrange for your complimentary Charisma Assessment with Scott. Select a meeting time from his calendar.
https://calendly.com/scottmasonllc/ignite-your-charisma
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Excerpts from this conversation with Scott Mason
06:26
Actually, I'm gonna bust you out a little bit, George, before we started taping you and I had a conversation about some apprentices that you're bringing on, and they were from Africa, and you wanted to work with them to help them help you.
I find it interesting in light of that conversation that you mentioned Perseus because Perseus from a symbolic perspective, and I actually wrote a series of essays about this for LinkedIn and Instagram represents also someone who understands the need to ask for help.
When it comes to achieving their goals. He literally saw the thought originally, he made the promise to kill Medusa basically as a boast.
But then the king that he made this boast in front of held him to it, he realised pretty quickly, I can't do this alone. This is more than any one person can handle.
And so he sought the help of the gods Athena, and Hermes, who literally walked him through an entire process along with some other folks along on the way to find Medusa. And then to destroy her.
On the way back, he stopped in Ethiopia to help some other people out. That was a woman who was being chained to a rock to be eaten by a monster as a as a sacrifice. He used Medusa his head, or maybe actually use a sword to kill that monster.
But in any event, he's left with this woman, Andromeda, who was an Ethiopian Princess, flew back to Greece, and they found it actually the greatest ancient Greek civilization of Mycenae.
And so I think that in terms of what you just said to me, about what you're doing in your own professional life right now, as a growing business person, where you want to go, and the possible outcomes of what your work with other people could lead to Perseus as perhaps an even greater and more profound metaphor than you even realised.
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Anyone can be charismatic so long as they take the four foundational steps and apply them into their lives to become charismatic, and it manifests itself very differently depending on who you are and what age and stage and and other characteristics you have in your mind.
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22:19
Your intended message could not be a more appropriate set of words, for the answer to that question.
When I decided to land upon this framework as the tool for passing on my message, I knew that there would be a lot of people that responded to it exactly, as you just described. And in fact, one of the things that I viewed initially, as a sign that this ultimately would succeed, was the amount of negativity that I received, unsolicited online.
I had people, by the way, who didn't seem to understand that I realised that Greek myths, right, like Zeus doesn't really exist. So I had people that were concerned about my immortal soul, or people who, you know, reminded me that I wasn't talking about the Bible, that sort of stuff.
And I also, though, had people including some in my immediate circle, who felt the need to send me text messages, or DM saying that what I was doing sucked.
Actually, George, that's charisma. Because I tell you, how many times when you're scrolling through social media, do you feel the need to stop and tell someone that you hate what they're doing? Usually, most people just scroll on, it said to me, it had an impact.
My message is not intended to go to everyone. If you don't like Greek myths, well, I can get you to like them. But if you don't like allegory, if you don't like something that's out of the box, and creative, and there's nothing wrong with folks that aren't that way, I don't judge them. This ain't for you.
The clients I have, make no mistake, they are committed. I have a client who began my program, we start talking about ethics from the beginning, because ethics do relate to charisma and less direct way.
He started reading Aristotelian ethics. This on his free time because of that, that's commitment.
I have other clients who when we do the actual mission statement that we sent her their charismatic exercises around, found an obscure Greek goddess that really spoke to her and that helped her frame her message and tighten and understand exactly who and what she needs to be.
This program is not for those who are just interested in what I call pep rally motivation, or you go girl sort of encouragement of what you need.
This is for those who are seriously seeking transformation as as cerebral. I'll be fun as the Greek myths are That's the depth that I seek for my clients to go to. The deeper you dig George, the more you find
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Thursday Oct 20, 2022
Thursday Oct 20, 2022
Imagine the results when you can calm an angry person in 90 seconds - or less
Anger is a normal emotion and you can manage those angry people in your life
Episode 117 (Doug is based in California)
In this conversation with Doug Noll, we explore:
- That angry is simply one part of our emotional personality
- How to quickly sooth the angry soul
- Anger is an indication of a boundary violation
- What is emotional invalidation and how does it harm
- Mistakes to avoid with facing angry people
- Why anger is not necessarily bad
- How to manage your own anger and recognize the triggers
- Why ranting is not a helpful solution
About Doug Noll
Doug Noll is a lawyer-turned-peacemaker. In addition to his law degree, he has a Masters Degree in Peacemaking and Conflict Studies. In 2000, he left a successful law practice as a civil trial lawyer to help people resolve conflicts without litigation or conflict.
Doug was born nearly blind, partially deaf, and with two clubbed feet. His disabilities were challenging to overcome….and he did
He’s a second-degree black belt and tai chi master, a certified ski instructor, an airplane and helicopter pilot, a white-water river rafter, and a jazz violinist.
Doug teaches people how to de-escalate angry people in 90 seconds or less. His fourth book, an Amazon bestseller, is called De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less. Doug has online video courses and provides workshops and coaching to individuals and organizations desiring to increase their emotional competency.
As a listener of Your Intended Message you are entitled to receive a free book, How to Listen Others into Existence.
Take advantage of this offer here www.DougNoll.co/intended-message
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Excerpts from this conversation with Doug Noll:
03:04
Well, it's very interesting. There are at least 12 Different kinds of anger. And we don't have time to go into all the different kinds of anger there are, but there are at least 12 Different kinds of anger.
And at its root, of course, Anger is an emotion. And there are many levels and intensities of anger.
So you can be frustrated, which is an anger, emotion, you can be annoyed, you can be enraged, you can be irritated, you can be you can have hatred, so many, many different levels.
The key to all of these emotions are that when we get triggered into an angry emotion, the emotional centres of our brain take over. And they shut down the thinking part of our brain.
And we've all had this experience when we've seen it, you get angry, you can't think what some really interesting brain scanning studies show is that when the listener labels the anger to the angry person, the speaker, the anchor goes away in about 90 seconds.
And all I would say is something like this, Hey, George, you are really pissed off, you're angry, you're frustrated, you feel completely disrespected and ignored. You don't feel appreciated.
You feel a little bit of anxiety and worry about all of this. And you're sad because you feel betrayed. And the whole thing is just really frustrating to you. If you were really angry by me saying those words in that way to you, your brain would literally calm itself down.
What's effectively happening is that because your prefrontal cortex is offline when you're angry, when I tell you what you're feeling, it allows your prefrontal cortex to grab a hold and figure things out and all of a sudden calm itself down. And it's how every human brain is hardwired. And it happens in less 90 seconds. It's how it works,
05:04
Doug, if if we did nothing else in this conversation today that that phrase that you just did, you just delivered there is enough to provide tremendous value. Because what I'm noticing is one when you said that you were not responding, anger to anger, which is the typical response, well, you're angry, I'll be even angrier.
Yes, I can be a bigger jerk than you no problem. That's the typical response. And then we wonder why he was so unproductive. And we both go away feeling frustrated and unsatisfied. But when you said that, and even though I mimicked anger before, I wasn't angry, but I could imagine if you were saying that to me, and I was angry, it's like, oh, you get me? You understand me?
05:50
Exactly. That's exactly right. And here's what's happening. angry people need to be listened to, they're angry because they're not being heard at a deep emotional level. And when you can fulfil that need by validating their emotional experience, when I call listening another person into existence, anger goes away instantly.
And it happens every single time without failure. And I have had 12 years of field experience teaching murderers and maximum security prisons, how to become peacemakers and mediators to stop prison violence.
And I've taught over 20,000 inmates these skills, and every single one of them has had success with it in many cases. We started in 2010, my colleague Wolkoff and I started in 2010, in the largest, most violent women's prison in the world. Valley State Prison for Women and Chowchilla, California.
Two years into the program, we trained 800 women out of a population of 3600. We got an unsolicited letter from the warden saying the prisoner quieted down because of prisoner peace. It works.
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Thursday Oct 13, 2022
Thursday Oct 13, 2022
Positive Self Talk leads to Positive Habits
Your action speaks louder than your words
Episode 116 (Kevin is based in New Hampshire)
In this conversation with Kevin Palmieri, we explore:
- The power of both positive and negative habits
- Recognize the value and purpose of pain
- Leading your team by enhancing their value
- The importance of seeking the next level of development
- When mistakes can be valuable
- Why it's powerful to do something for the first time
- How you can escape self-imposed traps & limits
About Kevin Palmieri
Kevin is the CFO, Founder & Co-Host of Next Level University, a Global Top 100 Self-Improvement podcast with more than 1000 episodes reaching over 600 thousand people in more than 125 countries.
After overcoming depression and suicidal ideation, Kevin became passionate about self-improvement and entrepreneurship. Through his podcasting and speaking, he made it his life's purpose to make a positive impact on as many people as possible.
Kevin believes in a heart-driven, no BS approach to holistic self-improvement while teaching people to get to the next level of their lives.
Are you ready to explore the next level of your life? Then take this course to challenge your thinking and actions. (This course is free.)
https://www.nextleveluniverse.com/next-level-5-to-thrive-registration/
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Excerpts from this conversation with Kevin Palmieri:
03:10
So next level suggests that we are a continuous work in progress.
03:18
Yes, yeah. 100%. When you build a house, you don't just build a house and then leave it.
You have to clean the house, you have to maintain the house, you have to keep up with the times, maybe you have to change your wiring, when the electrical codes change, there's always something going on.
So by definition, Nothing ever stays the same. If something is quote, unquote, in maintenance mode, it's probably getting worse. And I'm not saying that as a human intrinsically, you're getting worse.
But if you're not creating new skills, if you're not becoming a better communicator, if you're not honing your leadership skills, you're probably losing ground and you're losing momentum, and you're not going to get the opportunities and the impact that you want out of life. It's a never ending game.
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05:07
And Kevin, I, I think I heard a powerful insight there, you mentioned about when you improve, when you get better, you feel better, you feel good about yourself. And it perhaps to me that, that feeling good about yourself is those little accomplishments that you you make every day, every week, every year,
05:30
I grew up with very low self worth, George. And I always wondered why.
And I think a lot of the reason behind that was I wasn't willing to try new things. And I wasn't willing to prove to myself that I actually was more capable than I gave myself credit for.
And by doing that, I actually kept lowering my worth, lowering my worth, lowering my worth.
So when you do things that maybe you didn't believe, were possible, when you learn something that helps you understand yourself at a deeper level, I think you can start to value yourself internally at the appropriate level. And I think it takes self awareness, which is going to take learning, ultimately, yeah.
06:09
Hmm. And you, you said you lowered yourself, your self worth your self esteem.
And it sounds like at one point, you lowered it so much that you even thought, well, what's the point of living anymore? I'm not worth anything.
How did you escape from that? That prison?
06:31
I think that for me, I had found quote, unquote, success. So I was a six figure earner at 26. And I remember when I opened my final pay stub, I said,
Why aren't I happier than I am, this is exactly what I wanted. I have everything I could ever want, what's going on here?
So I think I got all this awareness at once about what true happiness quote unquote, and success was.
Now, luckily, I had a very supportive group of people around me.
So the day that I felt the worst, the day that I was having these suicidal thoughts, I texted somebody close to me. And I said, Hey, I'm having these thoughts. I'm having these feelings, I'm having these emotions. I don't know what's going on. I don't know what to do.
And I think two things happened. One, I was in enough pain to reach out to somebody to the person I reached out to gave me permission to make a different choice that day.
He said, Well, so much has changed for you, but your environment.
So they're saying, Of course you don't feel valued, you're hanging out in places where you're not valued.
And if you were hanging out where you should be hanging out, you would be valued, and you'd feel more valuable, and your self worth would be higher.
But if I reached out to somebody, George, and I said, Hey, I'm feeling a certain way, I don't know what to do. And they said, Well, Kevin, nobody likes their job. Everybody hates their job that's par for the course, then what are the odds, I would have felt safe enough, courageous enough and supported enough to actually leave?
So in a weird way, Alan is the person I reached out to, his intended message was you should really do what's going to make you the most happy and fulfilled.
And he gave me the permission to do that, which I know a lot of people wouldn't necessarily have in that situation.
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Thursday Oct 06, 2022
Thursday Oct 06, 2022
How to boost your cross culture communication results
Your culture is simply your perspective of the world
Episode 115 (Katja is based in Den Hagg, Netherlands)
In this conversation with Katja Schleicher, we explore:
- What are the challenges of cross culture communication?
- How to establish a positive relationship
- How to recognize the traps that might blind you to your bias
- Why you need to be a tourist more often
- How food can bridge the cultural divide
- How to build your multicultural team
- When you should not use Oregano
About Katja Schleicher
KATJA SCHLEICHER knew already at an early stage that talking is gold and silence the beginning of all troubles…
Known for her provocative style and her sense of humor on stage she looks deeper in our communication troubles – and is not afraid to talk about them.
After her studies (German & English language & Literature. Linguistics & psychology) she pursued an international career in PR, Advertising and Corporate Communications for Media & HiTech Companies.
For more than a decade she now passionately enables effective & empathic communication with all the clients she works with. From big banking, conservative pharma to ambitious startups. From 1:1 dialogues to the big stages.
With three languages, two passports and an European heart, Katja travels across borders constantly to bring people and ideas closer through communication. She speaks at conferences about communicative misunderstandings and how to initiate change through communication.
Learn more about Katja and her programs at the website
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Excerpts from this conversation with Katja Schleicher:
02:27
You know, you correctly said that I really love to be around people that come from different backgrounds and mindsets, because and that brings me to intercultural communication in a straight line.
This is where it's getting interesting. Where everything is the same or a similar a over time, it's getting less interesting. We are getting sloppy. We think, oh, yeah, he or she, they will understand me anyway, even if I do not pronounce clearly, even if I'm, you know, I'm in sloppiness, right?
And that was one of the reasons why I liked the title of your podcast, Your Intended Message so much, often the intention doesn't get through, it simply gets lost in translation.
And you see that not just in business, you see that in relationships. A lot. That after a certain time, it's like Yeah, yeah, you know, oh, yeah, George. Yeah, yeah, yeah, of course. I love George. Yeah. Huh. And the intention behind it kind of gets lost.
So in intercultural context, this is one of the biggest challenges and that is one of the most beautiful things that you it's never getting boring, because there's always an impulse.
There's always a notch there was always something that happens, right and the end, especially in intercultural contexts, we try we as human beings, it's in us, we try in particular to get our intended message across and we take effort we, we check back.
If you ever had a relationship with someone from a different cultural or language background, you know that you make double and triple Sure, okay. Did sweetheart get what I meant? Or did he just hear my words and that to me is the way we should face all the challenges in intercultural communication.
So, accept there is someone from a different intercultural background and again, intercultural gene does not mean just countries, it could be in the same company that you speak to someone from the purchasing department and if you're from the marketing department, I can assure you there are quite some cultural differences and communication, right?
So, the more foreign the more strange, the better, because that keeps us sharp, it keeps us alert.
Of course, this is tiresome. Yes, it is much more easy if you have somebody mumbling and you know what you mean? Yep. But on the other hand, it gets boring, so fast. So, this is so the challenge to bring it back to this one send the challenge is in intercultural communication.
That is, it really requires everything from you. But it rewards you with everything is now you will learn so many new things in my perspective.
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21:39
How do you feel about a leader in the workforce? Learning more about the other people's culture, language or beliefs? How can they do that without appearing to intrude?
22:01
Now there is this wonderful balance between interrogation or intruding and curiosity.
And what I invite my clients to do very often is to treat their teams as a destination and behave themselves as the best tourist they could be.
Because when we go somewhere, we are curious, right? We are usually more wired for question. When we started, you just asked me in German, "Wo ist der Bahnhof?"
Where is the station? Right? So as a tourist we are wired for questions, because we know that maybe our message or intended message is not getting through. So asking a question is very helpful here.
And if you're if you're in leadership position, and you have a team to lead, I recommend that highly be a tourist in your own team. Be curious, not intruding and interrogating.
But be curious. Like you see, you go on a sightseeing tour every day.
Oh, George, I've never I've never seen someone doing this or that in my entire life. How did that evolve? Right? It's like, if I will be your boss, George, I'd be on go on George sightseeing.
So I think that this is because then people get a chance to respond. Right? You could tell me no oh, you know, that evolved like this or that. And this is the reasons why I'm very picky with my words.
And all these all the things we already we already talked about. And that is when you when you build as if when you're when you're leading a team, or you build a reservoir that you can use when you when you have a tough time with your team.
So be curious.
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Thursday Sep 29, 2022
Thursday Sep 29, 2022
How to communicate during a crisis
Crisis management and communication
Episode 114 (Edward is based in Washington, DC)
In this conversation with Edward Segal, we explore:
- How to be better prepared for your next crisis (hope isn't a plan)
- Silly phrases to avoid and what you should and can say
- Why it's never "off the record"
- What to include in your crisis management plan
- What to say when you still don't know what caused the problem
- How to deliver a clear message that is understood and believed
- How to prepare for the media, especially when facing serious accusations
About Edward Segal:
Bestselling author of the award-winning book, Crisis Ahead: 101 Ways to Prepare for and Bounce Back from Disasters, Scandals and Other Emergencies, published in 2020 by Nicholas Brealey
A leadership Strategy Senior Contributor for Forbes.com where he covers crisis-related news, topics and issues
Host of the weekly podcast, the Crisis Management Minute
Learn more about the book and working with Edward Segal here
You can get a copy of the ebook at 50% off.
Click this link and use the code CRISIS
https://nblibrary.papertrell.com/redeem
Get a free copy of the crisis management template by requesting it from Edward at this email address EdwardSegalCommunication@gmail.com
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Excerpts from this conversation with Edward Segal:
02:09
Well, mistake number one is that they often do not have a crisis management plan. And a crisis management plan can act as a roadmap guidebook to how to respond, manage and recover from a crisis.
But even if a company has a plan in place, the chances are pretty good that they have not looked at it, reviewed it or updated it in quite some time.
And even worse, they haven't even practiced the plan against various scenarios to make sure it will work when needed.
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06:18
And that template sounds like a handy tool because I can imagine a lot of people just thinking about a crisis plan, get overwhelmed, and don't know where to start or are reluctant to start. In one of the challenges must be which crisis do we pay? Do we prepare for it? Because there are so many?
06:38
Well, that's the purpose of the plan. A plan and crisis management plan helps you to prepare for every possible crisis, every possible contingency.
There are some things you can plan for and say, well, we might have a problem such as bad weather, whether it's flooding, snow, hurricanes, tornadoes, depending upon where in the country you live.
You should take steps immediately to prepare for those Mother Nature related crises.
Other crisis situations, such as allegations of sexual harassment, fraud, counterfeit, all those kinds of things, especially accounting, or book or bookkeeping related issues, there are ways to take steps to mitigate if not totally prevent those kinds of crisis.
I've identified more than 100 Different crisis triggers. And it's kind of like it's an extension of Murphy's Law. If anything can go wrong, it will.
Well, my law is if you it's not a matter of if you're going to have a crisis, it's when how bad it's going to be, how are you going to handle it, and how you're going to recover from it.
And that's what the book and the crisis management plan template is designed to help people address those issues.
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Thursday Sep 22, 2022
Thursday Sep 22, 2022
The Marketing crisis for small business and startups
Beware of the trap of choosing efficiency over effectiveness
Episode 113 (Gee is based in Strasbourg, France)
In this conversation with Gee Ranasinha, we explore:
- Why marketing is broken and the resulting marketing crisis
- Appreciating the value of differentiation and danger of not
- How to recognize "the people who call themselves marketers"
- Why it starts and ends with how people feel
- Why you want to consider the amygdala in your marketing plans
- The real purpose of branding when connecting with your decisions
About Gee Ranasinha:
Founder and CEO of KEXINO, an award-winning start-up and small business marketing agency.
Gee's background is in B2B marketing, small business marketing, branding, differentiation, and customer behavior.
Gee's been in marketing since the days of dial-up modems. For seven years Gee was Worldwide Director of Marketing for a software company, working with clients such as IKEA, Marvel, Nestlé, Airbus, and Time Magazine. For the past 14 years he has been CEO of KEXINO, an award-winning marketing agency specializing in helping startups and small businesses around the world deploy next-generation marketing within - and across - their organizations.
A Fellow of the Chartered Institute Of Marketing, Gee is also Visiting Professor at European business school IEF, teaching final-year MBA students on Marketing and Behavioral Economics.
Connect with Gee and learn more at Kexino.com
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Excerpts from this conversation with Gee Ranasinha:
01:59
It's quite simple, really, it goes to my history, way back when, for seven years, I was worldwide director of marketing for a software company, fairly large software company in Europe serving blue chip clients such as timing can IKEA, Nestle, Airbus Marvel people like that.
And whenever I was invited, to have marketing agencies come in to pitch for our business, I was always amazed at how little notice they took towards any fiduciary responsibility for the marketing plans that they proposed.
And at the same time, this is back in 2007 or so the thing called the internet was beginning to affect our daily lives. I don't know George, maybe you've heard of it, this thing called the internet.
02:51
It was, it was the big brands who were the ones taking advantage of the potential of the internet because they had greater technical experience. And obviously, deeper pockets.
And small businesses and startups are getting left behind. And so I figured that there was an opportunity for a marketing agency resource, specifically aimed at helping small businesses and startups that could help them leverage the power of online engagement and the evolution of customer buying processes.
And so that's why in January 2008, I resigned my comfortable corporate position, with all its trappings and international travel and company cars and expense accounts, and all that sort of stuff. And we launched our marketing agency.
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12:51
So firstly, I think marketing is in crisis, because it is ideologically disliked, in the higher tiers of business. Okay. And secondly, I mean, I'll expand upon this in a minute. Secondly, I think marketing is in crisis, because much of the work conducted by people who call themselves marketers, notice I didn't call the marketers I said people who call themselves marketers is only a tiny bit of what marketing is actually about.
13:26
And what the people who call themselves marketers are actually doing is communications is promotion.
13:38
Which if we go back to the four P's of marketing is you know, only 25% of what marketing is.
And so, as a result of just focusing on comms and communications and messaging, marketing has been relegated to a sales support function. Right. And within so many organizations, the marketing function is seen as, producing brochures, updating the website, getting some tote bags made, getting some stress balls printed, and at the other end, marketing is being used as an automation tool to automate lead generation and advertising.
But it's delivering substandard and increasingly ineffectual results. So what do I mean that CEOs have a dislike to marketing?
14:36
I think they have an inherent distrust in marketing because it goes against the way they think, CEOs and CFOs, accountants, numbers-people, that they look at other areas of the business. And those areas are very pragmatic and they're very, they're based on rationality. They're based on sequential thought.
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Businesses are looking to create a, a data driven repeatable process, but one that's devoid of creativity, salience, or resonance, and then they wonder why their marketing doesn't work.
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It needs to have in in my opinion, it needs to have somebody who understands a customer. There are far too many conversations that I have with business owners with people who call themselves marketers who haven't spoken to a customer in the past six weeks. Now to me that tantamount to a dereliction of duty,
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The book he mentioned, Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman.
Thursday Sep 15, 2022
Thursday Sep 15, 2022
Connect with Listeners with Your True Voice
How can you uncover and leverage your authentic voice
Episode 112 {Susan is based in North Carolina)
In this conversation with Susan Murphy, we explore:
- Why is your authentic voice critical to your success?
- What mental and physical exercises can you use to uncover that voice?
- The three simple techniques to improve your voice today
- What can you learn from the voices of Darth Vader and Jar Jar Binks?
- How to connect with the audience when telling the story
- Recognizing that the presentation is part of a process
- What grade level so you speak from?
About Susan Murphy:
Susan has been in the broadcast industry for more than 40 years and she is always open to reinvention. Voice coaching is the most rewarding job she has ever had.
Her primary clients are in the broadcast industry and she can you improve your voice to deliver a more powerful and intentional message.
Visit her website to learn more and arrange an initial consultation at
Connect with Susan on Linkedin
https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-murphy-a649406/
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Excerpts from this conversation with Susan Murphy:
02:31
I work with reporters and anchors at TV stations around the country. And the primary thing I work with is finding helping them to find their authentic voices.
They all have them. It's just that women in particular, don't tend to use them. Which I think goes back to their childhood where that breathy girlish Barbie doll voice probably served a need back then got them the attention they wanted or needed, allowed them to navigate, perhaps a sort of dysfunctional home life or whatever.
But it doesn't serve them well getting into adulthood. So what I do is, I don't teach anything that they don't already have, you know, in their bodies, I just help them discover it, I just uncover their authentic voices.
So once you do that, already, you have started with a rising a blossoming confidence.
And that's what a lot of reporters lack too. But that's mostly because of their age.
So the authenticity piece starts and then I move into some writing with them, because they all go out on different stories every day, or they're looking at anchor copy different every day. Are you making an intentional connection to this story?
And they look, and you wouldn't do a story with a grieving mother the same way you would do a St. Patrick's Day parade, which you Okay, everybody gets that.
But there's more to it than that. So making that intentional connection, not only with the story, but how about with the people you work for?
Oh, and that's not your bosses, the people you work for is the audience. If you can't make an intentional connection to what you're talking about, or to what you're delivering, I try never to say reading because there's a difference.
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Write your script, like a fifth grader, how old are you in fifth grade, you're 10. Deliver it, like a college professor.
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10:47
Short sentences are a reporter's best friend. You can do so much more with the tone of your voice in a short sentence, then you can do in a long one, because in a long one, you're just trying to get from A to Z.
11:03
If you keep the sentences short, if you make sure you take those pauses between the sentences, tone happens, you almost don't have to manufacture it, because those words will automatically trigger tone.
And when you're not worried about tripping over the next word, or the next thought. It's amazing how authentic that delivery can be.
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24:38
If you were going to rephrase all of that, say for a group of seventh graders, is there a way you could explain it to maybe seventh graders that might be better for my audience?
Oh, okay. And then hopefully, they'll be able to explain it in a way that helps the seventh graders but then it allows you to write it better.
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Scientists who explained complex ideas in simple sentences include:
Albert Einstein
Carl Sagan
Neil deGrasse Tyson
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Thursday Sep 08, 2022
Thursday Sep 08, 2022
How to use a book to promote your business
Write and publish your book, then promote it to boost your success
Episode 111 {Judy is based in California)
In this conversation with Judy Baker we explore:
- How to leverage your book as a business marketing tool
- Five mistakes to avoid when marketing your book
- Why give your book to clients and prospects as a gift
- What you and me have in common with the armadillo
- How to positive your service business with a competitive advantage
- What you can learn from the reshaping of the wine business in North America
- What you can learn about marketing even if you don't have a book
About Judy Baker:
Book Marketing Mentor, Judy M. Baker, helps business authors get more bang for their book, turning content into cash long after a book launch.
After conquering cancer in 2014, she became an author advocate and self-publishing evangelist. Her memoir will publish in 2022.
Her workshops and one-on-one mentoring sessions have inspired hundreds of author to build awareness about themselves, their books and their businesses.
Are you a nonfiction author that wants to revisit your book marketing strategy? then visit Book Buzz Audit to arrange your 30 minute mentoring session with Judy Baker. No charge, no obligation.
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Excerpts from this conversation with Judy Baker:
04:59
Oh, Well, you brought up a good point because that would make a great subtitle.
But if your intention is, how do you know it's about your brand, or how you show up or how you make an impression on people, you want to look at a title that is, well, and these days, this is even more important.
Most of the time, people are not walking into a physical bookstore, they're looking for you online. And so a short title, one or two words is far better.
And then you can have a humongous subtitle, you could have, I think it's up to, like 30 words in the subtitle.
So amplify what that book is about, but grab people's attention with something that is very important to them, and tells them what they're going to get out of it.
You're You're completely right on that someone I just interviewed recently has a book out called raise your fees, without losing clients? Well, yeah, you know, immediately what that's about.
Now, that's a little bit longer title than, then I would typically say, but because she knows her audience really well, she came up with the title after she was working on the book.
And that's the other thing, you probably are going to have a working title, great.
But what you wind up at the end, might be something different. And you can find out if it resonates with people, because you ask them.
And that's, that's a that's another thing authors often do that can hold them back. You write on your own, but at some point, you need to collaborate with editors, with your book designer, you need to interact with the people you intend the book for, and get their feedback.
And if you've ever looked at any of the successful book, funding campaigns, crowdfunding, Indiegogo, or Kickstarter, you're going to see that people are saying, Oh, here's my ideas. What do you think? And do you have any suggestions?
And if you know, here's, here are my possible covers. So when you get engagement going on as early as possible, that's fabulous. But sometimes you don't know until after.
And if you're self published, it's a lot easier to change your book cover and your book title. But even if you are working with a team, listen to what other people say, we can't we don't see ourselves the way others do.
We don't see that our books the way other people do. So we need to ask questions.
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24:36
Judy, you told us some of the mistakes they made. What are some of the best practices that you've seen people do?
24:55
Well, one of the one of the best strategies I've seen is creating companion pieces to your book.
Some authors are now are now creating a limited series podcast where they're sharing information about the book.
And that makes it a little more manageable.
But if you say, Okay, I'm going to do a series based on my book, and maybe I'm gonna go chapter by chapter and are just part of it, then you're revealing information, but you're inviting people in.
So that's really great. The other strategy that seems to be very effective is not only audio, but video.
So if you are a nonfiction author, and you serve your clients, there's probably something you're doing that's included in your book that you could do short short videos about, and put that out there.
And this is another tip. If you're doing video, yes, put it up on YouTube, because YouTube is one of the largest search engines.
But you want to make sure that video in its native form, if you're going to use it on social uploaded in its original form, on to say LinkedIn, or Facebook or Twitter or Instagram.
Because there's a bias on all of those rented platforms, for native information, they don't want you going out the door, they want to keep you on the platform, but you still have your video in all of those places. And you can include it wherever you want to share it.
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Thursday Sep 01, 2022
Thursday Sep 01, 2022
How to be communicate to your team in a positive way
How to tame the negative thoughts in your head that can sabotage your success
Pamela Jett is a leadership and communication skills expert who has been working with leaders for almost three decades to them communicate, lead and succeed.
Episode 110 (Pamela is based in Arizona)
In this conversation with Pamela Jett we explore:
- The critical difference between being relentlessly positive instead of pursing happiness (happiness is an unrealistic goal)
- Words to chose and words to lose (stop sabotaging your intended message)
- How to stop the negative ranting in your head
- The three principles of positive communication
- Situational life-saving phrases to escape emotional traps
- How to communicate as an effective leader in any situation
About Pamela Jett:
As an internationally recognized communication and leadership expert, speaker, author, and executive advisor, Pamela Jett works with professionals to better understand that choosing to be “Relentlessly Positive” even in difficult situations isn’t naïve… it’s leadership.
After graduating from San Diego State University with a degree in Speech Communication and receiving recognition as one of the top 20 speech and debate competitors in the country, Pamela went on to earn her master’s degree in Communication. It was while pursuing her Ph.D. at the University of Utah that her love of teaching adults powerful success skills was kindled.
Learn more about Pamela Jett and her programs at her website www.PamelaJett.com
Learn more about the turnkey leadership academy here.
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Excerpts from this conversation with Pamela Jett:
So I believe in instead of chasing happiness, I believe and fostering relentless positivity or choosing to be relentlessly positive. Because when I am relentlessly positive, my likelihood of having happiness increases. So in many ways, relentlessly positive attitude is one of the key drivers of happiness. And relentless positivity is all about our mindset.
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03:39
Okay, so we just had a fire in the plant. How can I be positive about that?
Well, here's the key.
Relentlessly positive communicators focus not on the past, they focus on the future.
So they would acknowledge the devastation or the challenge. So a great leader would say something like, we have just had a very devastating fire. And I am confident that we as a team can put together a fast recovery plan so that we can get back on track in a timely fashion.
So there are a couple of keys to that.
The first is acknowledging that something bad happened because if you're a leader after a devastating fire in a plant, and you go in and you say hey, it's gonna be a great day, and you use that rah rah, cheerleader, kind of happy clappy positivity, that doesn't work.
But if I say, yes, we've had something bad happen, we've had this bad fire. And so the word and is a word to choose the word but is a word to lose.
Because if I said, Oh, we've had this devastating fire, but it really kind of negates that empathy piece that I just gave as a leader.
And if I don't acknowledge that this was tough, everybody's gonna think that I am as a leader, completely delusional that I don't have any empathy that I have no feeling for what they're going through.
But if I say, hey, this was a really, really devastating fire, and I'm confident that we as a team can put together a great recovery plan, I use the and it doesn't negate my empathy.
And then I'm using another principle of relentlessly positive communication, which is the future focus.
And I'm confident we can put together a great recovery plan. So it gets us working on solutions, not sitting there moaning and groaning over the problem.
Now, that's a very simplistic example. That is how relentlessly positive communication differs from that rah rah cheerleader, have a good attitude, always be positive.
Look, on the bright side, it's very strategic. I'm doing it intentionally to build trust with my team. And I'm doing it to also help move forward into problem solving.
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But if I just accept, or even simply say, Wow, that was interesting, which is a neutral statement. Wow. That was interesting.
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16:07
Feelings drive decisions, not logic, not reason.
And I know, when people are listening to this, they might be thinking, wow, that's not true. I decided to buy my car because I researched and I did and yes, you do that, and you have your data and your logic and rationale to back it up.
And some people have the space between the feeling and their decision is just so minuet that they can't be they don't recognise that they're gathering those facts.
For some of us, Hey, I know I've got a feeling. And I am aware now that I'm gathering facts, and I've made my decision, neither way is right or wrong.
It's just some people make their decisions so differently, and they gather their facts so quickly, they can't really recognise that they went through a feeling phase because they aren't really thinking about their feelings, because feelings aren't thinking they're feeling.
So every decision we make is starts out as a feeling person that's been proven, by the way our brains architecture works, it's just how our brains are.
And how this impacts us as humans is obviously on an individual level, I need to be aware of my feelings, because that impacts the decisions I make.
I also know that as a leader, if I want to have a team that's engaged, if I want to have a team that thinks that their work is meaningful and important, and decide to come in with a problem solving attitude, that they come in, ready to work, and to be focused and to be collaborative, and all those decisions we want our team members to make.
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Thursday Aug 25, 2022
Thursday Aug 25, 2022
Self Awareness and Openness Builds Winning Teams
What can we learn from the Special Forces to build workplace teams?
Noel DiBona has served on high performance teams in private business and in military Special Operations.
Episode 109 (Noel is based in North Carolina)
In this conversation with Noel DiBona we explore:
- How self awareness is the foundation for strong teams
- The importance of sharing strengths and blind spots
- Recognizing the effects of stress on you and your teammates
- Behavioral analysis and how to use it
- How not to forgo your perspective and authentic self
- When independence and collaboration clash
About Noel DiBona:
Noel began his career as an operations supervisor in a Clorox manufacturing facility and he was frustrated at the lack of productivity.
He set out on a mission looking for ways to build better teams. Over 35 years he served on high-performing teams in military special operations and business.
While serving in executive management at Fluor Corporate, CH2M and Tetra Tech he perfected a system to develop high-performing teams.
As a consultant he has helped clients save millions of dollars through better resource use. His clients included Electrolux, DuPont, GSK and many others.
Learn more about Noel DiBona and his services for building high-performing teams at the website www.ConsultDiBona.com
You can arrange for a Team Improvement Plan (no charge) at the website.
Excerpts from this conversation with Noel DiBona:
02:13
Delighted to be talking with you all. And I'm curious of all the teams you worked on, I would imagine working in Special Forces, one really learns how to appreciate all the nuances of a team working together for one purpose.
02:31
Absolutely George, in a team such as that high performance team, we all knew what our jobs were, we could fill in with for each other, we were cross trained, and were brutally honest with each other.
But we would put our lives on the line for one another. So it was what you would consider to be the utmost highest respect, trust and open communication that you could possibly expect of any high performance team.
It was truly a pleasure and an honor for me to be part of that through my career.
03:03
And Noel, did you find that you could take lessons learned in that team environment and apply it into business?
03:11
Absolutely, George, one of the things that we were able to do, when I came out of the military was really understand how people are orienting themselves towards getting their work done and how everybody works just a little bit differently.
And when I came out of the military, I was very prone to looking forward to talking to people to understand what they were doing.
And to just put myself in the learn mode. I was very inquisitive, asked lots of questions. I wanted to know how everything worked.
And I got that from being in the military, because we're in contact with so many people, so many different folks from different walks of life, that I'm extremely comfortable dealing with many, many different types of individuals.
And so right from the very beginning, when I got out of the military, I was focused on really building relationships with the people I worked with.
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06:52
In taking a deep dive into understanding ourself, and perhaps putting into words, features, characteristics that we never put into words, that's probably good for ourself.
Is that also meant to be shared with the team saying, Hey, guys, here's how I think here's how I think through things. So please don't take it wrong when I do this?
07:18
Absolutely. The second part of this is for each individual on the team, to have an honest conversation with one another about their strengths, and their potential blind spots, the things that might make them a little bit not so easy to get along with when there's pressure and stress.
We can talk with each other very openly, honestly, and in a cordial way, when there's no heat on us. But as the team comes under stress, the stress of everyday business, depending on what's happening in that company, people begin to work in a way where they might over utilize their strengths.
And when they over utilize their strengths, there's a flipside to the good things that we do. For example, we might be really proactive, and we might be independent minded, which is a really good thing when you're trying to bring change about in the organization.
However, if the other people are more collaborative, and I'm under a lot of stress, then it's going to come across in a way that might not really be that good to build teamwork from it might tear down teamwork a little bit.
So we want every individual to have an open and honest conversation with one another, in order to gain a better sense of appreciation of who we are.
And we can do this with people that have worked with each other for years and years. And sometimes they know, obviously, a little bit more than if they had just started working with each other.
But it's really, really interesting to note that in most cases, they learn things about people that they never knew.
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