Your Intended Message

Boost your Presence with Gravitas: Diane DiResta

November 24, 2022

You don't need to be an executive to have presence

Check your gravitas, communication and appearance

Episode 122 (Diane is based in New York)

In this conversation we explore:

  • The contributing components of presence
  • What are the elements of gravitas, communication and appearance?
  • The power of confidence and decisiveness
  • How to align your communication
  • How to establish your grounding position before you speak
  • How to wield the power of the pause to your overwhelming advantage
  • How to show up (and mistakes) for virtual meetings

About Diane DiResta

A speech pathologist, professional speaker, executive speech coach and past president of National Speakers Association NYC. She has spoken on 4 continents and is the author of Amazon category bestseller, Knockout Presentations.

Learn more about Diane at her website





Excerpts from this conversation with Diane DiResta

Gravitas is the biggest component and it makes up 67% of the message. Or the definition communication is 28%. And your appearance is 5%. of executive presence.


They're not grounded. So I give people actual practical tools that they can use. So here's one that I'll share with your listeners.

Whether you are on a screen or in a in person meeting, the first thing you want to do is establish a grounding position. Why? Because a lot of times in the beginning, we're fidgeting we have energy, we don't know what to do with it.

So here's what you can do, put both feet flat on the floor, lean in at a 15 degree angle with both hands on the table. I don't know if you can see this.

And what this does is it creates a presence and a grounding. So even if your heart is pounding out of your chest, we don't see it, you look confident.

So then the audience responds to you as if you are confident and then you start to feel more confident. You start to feel their respect and attention. So it starts with little things.

But what I've discovered is it's the little things that make the greatest impact. So nobody listening today has to do a big total makeover, but little tweaks along the way will get you to where you want to go.


So when you talk about appearance, looking polished, and you're being authentic part of that your background when you're on screen.

So how are you showing up, and I've had people with beds in the background, not good.

So you can have a branding background, a background, like what I have, or you can use your home as long as it's professional looking, or an office. But all of these little things add up to an impression, a brand and executive presence.



So energy is good. Enthusiasm is good, absolutely. But you can still be really enthusiastic, and come to a pause. So it's like a stop sign. Don't go past the stop sign, come to a complete stop, and then move. Let people have time to process.


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